8 Heartbreaking Things Women Do That Make Men Fall Out Of Love
If the relationship with your guy started with a drunken hookup, moved on to a casual (but intense) physical connection, had a short pause in the land of âI love you,â and is now feeling distant and uncoupled, maybe your ârelationshipâ was never what you thought.
Feelings of infatuation are strong and can make us think, âWow. This is real love!â But without some underpinning of compatibility, people just tend to lose interest and drift apart.
Sometimes, even, a man wakes up to find that loving feeling is gone (gone, gone, gone). Heâs no longer in love. Here are 8 of the most common reasons why.
Here are 8 heartbreaking things women do that make men fall out of love:
1. Business in the front. Business in the back
If youâre in a relationship and youâre sharing any of the responsibilities of life (i.e. money, children, a home), itâs easy for your coupleâs interaction to be reduced to a series of business conversations. You are business partners, thereâs no changing that, but the key is being mindful of when you talk business and when you just relax and enjoy each other. Itâs hard to be passionately in love with a person who is always talking about big, serious, important things. Make time for fun and playful conversation to create balance in the relationship.
2. He sees you more as a mom and less as a lover
Most of the items on this list give you strategies for changing your behaviour to help keep your partner engaged. Not this one. Some men were taught that certain kinds of women are moms and certain kinds of women are not. They have a very difficult time reconciling the two. If you have a guy who feels less attracted to you because of your role as a mom, heâs got some work to do. Itâs probably best handled by a professional counsellor. Of course, a woman must balance her roles of wife and mom, but if you are and heâs still feeling less loving, itâs his issue to fix.
3. Your relationship wasnât properly rooted
If the relationship with your guy started with a drunken hook-up, moved on to a casual but intense connection, had a short pause in the land of âI love you,â and is now feeling distant and uncoupled, maybe your ârelationshipâ was never what you thought. Feelings of infatuation are strong and can make us think, âWow. This is real love!â But without some underpinning of compatibility, people just tend to lose interest and drift apart.
4. Youâre the face of bad news
It happens over time. It happens subconsciously. If every time you see your guy youâre holding bad news, he starts to associate you with bad news. Does that sound fair? Itâs not fair, but itâs a real problem that can cause him to have less enthusiasm for the relationship. Itâs unrealistic to avoid sharing important and unpleasant news, but itâs vital that you proactively take measures to not become the face of bad news. Talk about the best times to share this kind of information and create special times, like dinner, when bad grades, late mortgages, and hostile bosses are verboten.
5. He stops feeling admired
Many therapists and psychologists have written about how women desire to be cherished and men desire to be admired. For some reason, the notion that a woman might admire her man is off-putting to some women. But it is so important to his attraction. A man who senses that he cannot earn your admiration slowly starts to lose interest in the relationship.
6. You require too much maintenance
I often see comments from women like, âYes, Iâm high maintenance, and Iâm worth it.â My instant thought when I see that is, âNo, youâre not worth it. No one is.â If youâre a real high-maintenance woman, most normal men will wonder if they want to pull a life sentence working to make you happy. And those who think that your demanding ways wonât matter typically feel differently after some months or years. Working so hard to get the approval of a partner can make him lose that loving feeling
7. One word: Incompatibility
Over time compatibility matters in a relationship. Some periods of weeks or months can paper over poor compatibility. You just do things you both love donât talk about certain topics, or focus on fun and hide certain sides of your personality. It can make two people seem perfect together. But eventually, life and reality must come calling. The fact that he is a spender and youâre a saver starts to matter. The fact that he is religious and you donât start to matter. All the significant differences start to present themselves and often one or both partners will just emotionally throw up their hands and say, âIâm not into this relationship anymore.â
8. He doesnât think youâre in his corner
Men place a very high value on loyalty. He needs to know that youâre in his corner â his foxhole. When the bullets are flying overhead and life is tough, he needs a woman who has his back. If heâs pulling away and lost that loving feeling, it could be because he feels that during important times you werenât the loyal partner he needs.
