Selling Sunset’s Amanza Smith on Sex With Kids’ “Uncles”
Amanza Smith Gives New Details on Her “Missing” Ex-Husband
Amanza Smith is telling to sell a new concept to her kids when it comes to her dating life.
The Selling Sunset star—a single mom to daughter Noah, 16, and son Braker, 14, after their father Ralph Brown went missing in 2019—revealed that she has slept with multiple men who her children consider “uncles.”
“[There’s just so many uncles that I probably have banged, and my kids are like, ‘Wait,’'” Amanza told Harry Jowsey on the Nov. 4 episode of his Boyfriend Material podcast, before explaining, “Not a real uncle, but you know when you’re close friends with somebody, and be like, ‘Uncle So-and-So,’ ‘Uncle So-and-So.’ There are, like, three Uncle So-and-So’s that I’ve definitely had sex with.”
But as the 48-year-old explained to her kids, she hasn’t dated every man in their lives. Seemingly referring to boss Brett Oppenheim, she noted, “My kids are old enough now that they’re like, ‘So, everybody that’s uncle?’ I’m like, ‘No, no, no, not everybody. Not Uncle Brett.'”
Amanza also uses the Raya dating app to find partners—and there are certain ideal characteristics that make boyfriend material for her.
“I think somebody who is honest,” she said. “Whatever the arrangement is, they’re faithful to that arrangement. Like, if you want to be monogamous, they are loyal.”
The reality star continued, “They have to like kids or at least teenagers. They have to have some ambition. I prefer someone who is not a smoker. They can vape.”
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Amanza added that she would not want the man to smoke marijuana, as she can’t stand the smell of it. And she wants him to be able to make her laugh.
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“They need to be funny or have a sense of humor,” she said. “They need to be kind.”
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But ultimately, Amanza admitted she hasn’t been that prioritizing her dating life all that much.
“I’ve really been focused on businesses,” she explained, “figuring out what I’m going to do when Selling Sunset comes to an end.”
Selling Sunset season nine is currently streaming on Netflix, with the reunion episode set to be released on Nov. 5.
Read on for more about the love lives of Selling Sunset stars…
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Jason Oppenheim
Jason was on the market for a while before sparking romance rumors with tennis player Genie Bouchard in January 2024, though it’s unclear where they stand.
The Oppenheim Group owner previously dated real estate agent Chrishell Stause for seven months but they broke up because, as she put it, “our ideas for family” were ultimately not “aligned.”
He also dated model Marie Lou Nurk for 10 months before their split in May 2023.
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Chrishell Stause
Chrishell married nonbinary musician G Flip in May 2023.
In a May 2022 Instagram video, Chrishell opened up about her relationship with the 27-year-old. “I am attracted to masculine energy and I don’t really care about what the physical form is,” she explained. “With G, they identify as nonbinary. They really feel like they are a mix. They identify on both sides of male and female. I personally find [it] such a beautiful mix and it’s probably why we did connect on such a deep level so quick.”
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Brett Oppenheim
Brett sparked romance rumors with tattoo artist Samantha Abdul in 2022, after dating Australian model Tina Louise.
Though we caught a glimpse of their relationship in season five, the duo went public with their romance in April 2021 but broke up eight months later.
Sound like a similar timeline to Jason? Must be twin telepathy!
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Christine Quinn
Christine Quinn married tech CEO Christian Dumontet—who goes by Christian Richard in the show—in 2019, though they called it quits in 2024 after the reality star accused him of domestic violence that “resulted in injury” of their son Christian Georges Dumontet. (Christian has denied the allegations.)Â
In March 2025, Christine debuted a new romance. The Selling Sunset alum was photographed kissing a man who appeared to be Texas business executive Thomas McGarrity during a trip to Cabo San Lucas, Mexico.
Heather Rae Young
Heather Rae Young married HGTV’s Tarek El Moussa on Oct. 23, 2021.Â
The day before the wedding, Tarek—who was previously married to Flip or Flop costar Christina Haack—wrote on Instagram, “If you had asked me four years ago I would’ve told you I was never getting married again and honestly I didn’t even think I would find love. Then one day Heather jumped onto my boat, looked at me, smiled and the rest is history. Thank god for that day.”
The two welcomed their first baby together in February 2023.
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Mary Bonnet
Mary Bonnet married Romain Bonnet in 2019 during season one of Selling Sunset!Â
But while we got to see the two love birds tie the knot, Mary’s rep confirmed to People that they actually had “a civil union a couple of months before the show began filming in June of 2018, but they chose not to tell any of their friends or family, as they were still trying to see if their relationship would work out in the long term.”
She shared in April 2023 that she suffered a septic miscarriage.
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Chelsea Lazkani
She married Jeff Lazkani in 2017 but filed for divorce in March 2024 over irreconcilable differences.
They share two children:Maddox Ali Levon and Melia Man.
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Emma Hernan
Emma is single and ready to mingle!Â
The real estate agent revealed to Today that she is “single and dating” and “open to a relationship,” adding that she is “open to something moving a little bit more serious.”
So what happened to Selling Sunset property developer Micah McDonald? After being seen flirting it up in season five, Emma says they still talk and “have a great relationship.”
“TBD what happens with that,” she told Today.
Amanza Smith
Amanza, who has two children with ex-husband and NFL star Ralph Brown, keeps her relationship status on the DL.
In an April 2022 E! News interview, she revealed that she’s been in a secret relationship.
“That’s the one thing that I’ve been able to keep a secret, so now it’s almost like a goal,” she said. “I’m glad that it’s gone this long and if it comes out, it comes out. But it’s almost fun to keep that private.”
But by the following August, Amanza and land developer David LaQua made things Instagram official.
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Maya Vander
Maya Vander has been married to her husband David Miller since 2017 and they went on to welcome children Aiden Vander and Elle Vander.
In December 2021, Maya tragically lost her third child during a stillbirth at 38 weeks pregnant. In May 2023, the pair welcomed a baby girl named Emma.
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