My Mom Chose Her Young Boyfriend Over Me When I Needed Her Most
Loneliness is a hard feeling, and it feels so great to find someone special who gives you love and comfort. Our readerâs mom has finally found a new partner after many years of solitude. It brought so many positive changes, however, their mother-daughter relationship got worse.
Our reader shared her story with us.
Thank you for sharing your story with us! Weâre sorry that youâre going through such a rough patch. Weâve prepared some tips that we hope youâll find useful.
Consider other options.
Itâs clear your mom doesnât want you at her place. You have two options: wait until she changes her mind (if she ever does), or find somewhere else to stay. You could rent a small room, or maybe ask other family members or friends for help if moneyâs tight. Itâs sad that your mom left you alone, but thereâs not much to do.
Talk to her again.
Try talking to your mom one more time. Maybe she wasnât in a good mood, and thatâs why she refused to let you stay. You could suggest going for a walk together or meeting somewhere without revealing the reason at first.
Once sheâs comfortable and the conversation flows, bring up the possibility of living with her again. Perhaps sheâll be more willing this time.
Reassure your mom.
She might be thinking youâll always stay with her and that âlooking for a jobâ is just an excuse. Prove to her that youâre actually seeking ways to get your life back on track. If needed, you can even offer to pay a small rent for your room once you start earning money. This way, sheâll understand that you arenât going to live with her forever.
Tell her how much you love her.
You might have accidentally hurt her without even realizing it. Consider if she has ever complained about your behavior or asked you to do certain things for her that you neglected. She could be holding onto a grudge that has strained your relationship. It doesnât guarantee a positive outcome, but itâs worth making an effort to improve your relationship.
Hitting your 40s can be tough, especially when youâre suddenly faced with reminders of how your body has changed. Thatâs the situation our reader found herself in when she opened her birthday gift. Instead of feeling joyful, she found herself thinking about getting a divorce.
