‘The Bear’: Abby Elliott on the “Real and Believable” Birth Episode

Birth scenes in movies and television shows tend to start out the same: A very pregnant woman is waddling across a room when—swoosh, her water breaks all over the floor. It’s a dramatic way to signal to the audience that a birth is about to happen, but it’s not actually how most labors begin.

In the third season of The Bear, Natalie (played by Abby Elliott) is very pregnant when she volunteers to go to the store to get more paper towels for the restaurant run by her brother Carmy. She’s lifting giant boxes full of paper towels—and, if this had been any other show, we would have seen a stereotypical burst of water to signal that Natalie’s labor was beginning.

But The Bear made a different choice, simply showing her having her first contraction in the parking lot. In the car, she attempts to call her husband, then every member of her restaurant family—but no one answers. As a last resort, she calls her mother, Donna, who joins her at the hospital. The rest of the episode, titled “Ice Chips,” is solely focused on Nat and Donna (returning guest star Jamie Lee Curtis) in the hospital room. Between contractions, they vacillate between being awkward and annoyed to deeply vulnerable with one another.

“When I read the script, I had never read or seen a birth scene like this,” Elliott tells Vanity Fair on the day the episodes were released. “I realized, looking back on birth scenes, there just are a lot of cliches that we fall into, like the water breaking, the screaming in pain. And it’s just not real life at all.”

Elliott would know. The actor was actually pregnant with her second child while she was filming the second season of The Bear, and gave birth to her son on June 9, 2023. With her own birth experience fresh in her mind, she set out to make Natalie’s story ring just as raw and truthful: “I loved that it was the pain of the contractions, and about physically and emotionally needing someone else there.”

“Ice Chips” is a stellar showcase for Elliott, who was previously best known for her comedic work on Saturday Night Live. Here, her dramatic skills are on full display, with the camera often close-up on just her face, Natalie’s emotions—fear, excitement, anxiety—revealed as much through the awkward silences with her estranged mother as through the painful contractions that punctuate their conversation. “It was very empowering. Being someone who has been through it, I felt capable and excited and challenged,” she says. “There’s a lot of beauty in those smaller moments.”

The Bear’s third season sees Natalie (Elliott) giving birth in the episode “Ice Chips”

If Elliott had not gotten pregnant as the writers of The Bear were working on the second season, Natalie’s story could have unfolded very differently. She told them the news early on, when she was just 10 or so weeks along. “They seemed thrilled, and like it kind of gave the character something else other than her new role as stepping in as project manager last season,” says Elliott, who was 33 weeks pregnant when they finished filming season two.

When she returned for season three, Elliott had to enter a time warp. “I’m wearing a fake belly to try and match, and getting back into the walk, the waddle, the heartburn, everything being up here in your chest,” she says. “I was burping a lot towards the end of last season, so I was trying to remember that feeling of just my stomach being so far up my esophagus.”